For the last few days I’ve been thinking about how people think and behave around new year. More specifically, the whole “new year, new me” and “goodbye last year, this year is going to be amazing!”. I wonder why people focus on the change in date and think that all the things that they haven’t achieved in the last year will suddenly become so much easier and life will be perfect.
Obviously there’s nothing wrong with being positive, the world would be a grim place without a bit of positivity. However, I’m a firm believer that if you only focus on the positive then you are setting yourself up for failure. In order to achieve your goals, you must plan ahead and accept that there will be bumps along the way – it’s how you deal with them that will make the difference between success and complete failure.
A lot of people set health goals for the new year, which is understandable – most of us have probably spent the last couple of weeks over indulging and not really moving around a lot. Setting new goals for yourself as a knee-jerk or guilt induced reaction to the holiday period is setting yourself up for failure – unless you change your way of thinking about these goals and planning.
- Consider yourself and your existing habits.
If you have previously set objectives for yourself but have not achieved them, consider what it was that got in the way – did you promise to go to the gym 5 times a week without changing your timetable to fit it in? Did you set a weight loss target without considering your undying love for takeaway food? I’m certain we’ve all done it at some point! When you set your goals, consider all the possible bumps you may encounter along the way and consider a “plan B” for if/when things don’t go to plan.
- Create positive mantras.
Of course you could go online for some inspiration but if you come up with it yourself you will find that it “speaks” to you more and has more of an impact. Personally I like to write mine out and put them around my home, it means that they are there in black and white and unavoidable! The key to making them positive mantras rather than punishing is all in the wording, avoid phrases like “I won’t/can’t”, pushing out the negative and welcoming the positive will have a impact on your ability to achieve your goals.
- Stop punishing yourself!
I’m sure we’ve all been guilty of this at some point, but dwelling on previous unachieved goals will not help you achieve anything. If you find yourself dwelling on something that you perceive as failure – go back to number 1 on this list. Pick yourself up, look at it as an opportunity to switch things up and find a new route to your goal.
- Celebrate every achievement
When you start working towards your goals, remember to stop and congratulate yourself for every achievement. So often we are advised to “look at the big picture” and to “focus on the end game”. However, sometimes you have to ignore the big picture and just focus on the small achievements along the way. After all – it’s the small achievements that will add up to become the ultimate goal.
- Set your goals based on what YOU want
If you base your personal goals on what someone else wants for you or says you should be then you will not have the motivation to see it through to the end. This will possibly end up with you punishing yourself for failure – that in itself is pointless and destructive, but even more so if you never truly wanted to achieve that goal to begin with. For example – don’t try to lose weight because a partner/friend/family member thinks you should, do it because you want to do it – for you. Basically be selfish when setting your goals!
I hope these tips help, if you have any more please share them in the comments 🙂 x